After being back at University for a full month now I can easily say that I am exhausted! Battling with a teething 15 week old baby boy and trying to keep up to date with reading, reports and deadlines etc is hard work but so rewarding.
I am currently a full time student, in my third year at university studying BA Business Studies. I love my course so much- despite it being quite difficult. Luckily, my course only has me in on a Wednesday, Thursday and Friday morning so finding childcare is easy enough and I’m not missing out on too much of Conor’s day which is fab too!
One main fear I had about going back to uni was knowing that I’ll have less time with Conor. I felt selfish and inconsiderate not deferring for a year. I kept asking myself, am I ready to go back? Will I be able to handle it? Am I a bad mum? I constantly argued with myself to the point I just decided that if I didn’t go right back into my studies then I couldn’t see myself going back at all -which was a scary thought after all the hard work I’ve done to get to this point. It was a hard decision but I know in the future it’ll be so worth all the early mornings and tired eyes when I have a degree and a decent job which I’ll be interested in.
Although being a full time mum and student is tiring and stressful, there are a couple of things that I’ve discovered over the past month that have made it a little easier. E.g;
Organisation is so important!
Being able to keep on top of all my important deadlines and exam dates whilst also factoring in Heath visitor appointments and jags etc for Conor is hard! Having a diary is useful, that way I know not to clash dates/times. When I get an appointment through for me or Conor I know to put it straight into my diary just so I know that I definitely have nothing else on that day. If I have an appointment that does clash with something else in my diary I ALWAYS phone up to change the app
I am so so SO lucky to have the support that I do. When Jamie comes in from work he’ll spend time with Conor which gives me a few hours to get all my uni stuff sorted for the next day and do some studying and report writing too.
Being calm and composed is also incredibly important. So many times I’ve let myself get so worked up about having uncompleted uni work and constantly thinking about deadlines coming up when I should just relax! It always gets finished in the end despite how much or little I stress. Especially now I have Conor, I realise that although my exams are important, there is more to life that being consumed with so much worry it makes me sick.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Wether that is with uni work or even asking someone to watch baby bop for a few hours while you get stuff done! This is something I learned the hard way. I always felt so guilty leaving Conor -still do sometimes- so purposely asking someone to watch him when I do something for myself literally made my skin crawl haha! I was constantly reassured that asking for help is fine! And I’m so glad that I have Jamie to help when he can too.
Most importantly.. try and rest! It’s hard to get a full nights sleep when you have a baby but trying to rest when you can is important for learning. I wouldn’t recommend all-nighters as they don’t work for me personally. “Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.” – Ovid
I’m so grateful that I have such a supportive environment which encourages me to get back to my studies -even though sometimes I doubt myself. I’m also grateful to be able to get back into my education this quick as I know many mamas don’t have the support or finances to be able to return so soon.
So far I’m enjoying uni! 1 year until my degree and hopefully I’ll get to graduation 👩🎓 and make my little family proud xx
Thanks for reading! 😽